Learning to Live with Frustrations - Part 1

0:06 Do you struggle to see how any good can come from hard times? Philippians chapter 1 offers a new perspective on adversity that helps you learn how to live with frustrations. Now frustration is the result of our being inhibited in achieving or accomplishing or receiving what we want or what we want to do. And we're hindered and in some way we're not able to have our own desires or own wishes granted. And so we feel frustration and inability to achieve or to accomplish or to finish or to get what we want. Now, there are some things in life that you and I pray for and wish for that God will never grant. It isn't because he's unkind or is it because he's impotent. It is because in the wisdom of God, he knows better than to remove that frustration from our life.

1:06 And there are some things we would like to go to the scripture for. And you can fast and pray and beg and plead. And if you're not listening to God to begin with, you can do anything you want to. But if God puts his finger there and he leaves it there and he's determined to leave it there for a given divinely designed reason to accomplish his will in your life, all the praying in the world is not going to make it go. Those are the things that frustrate us. We can't have our way in a given circumstance. And so we back off and first of all we get a little rebellious toward God Or we want to argue with him and then we want to compare ourselves with other people Then we want to weigh our good works against what how bad we could be We go through all of that until finally the wise man or woman eventually says okay Lord What is it that you're trying to say to me? I give up my rebellion trying to convince you of what you ought to do Now, frustration is a part of living because all of us are still human and we live in a worldly, ungodly culture.

2:09 But even if we all as saints, if this whole world was only covered with saints, but we still had a sin principle within us, we'd still be frustrated with each other at times. Now, I'm not going to give you a quick little ABC of 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, how to get rid of your frustrations. because I want to tell you there isn't anything in this Bible that says there is a key to eliminating all frustration in life. It's not. But there are some principles that teach us how to live with the frustrations that we have, and sometimes they're not of God. Some of you are living in situations in your home that from all practical purposes, you know that there's no human way for them to ever change. So you have already decided, I've got to learn to live with this, but maybe you're not doing so good. Or in your vocation, there are situations there that you know that you are helpless to change, and you've prayed, and they don't change.

3:06 Sometimes they get worse. And you keep asking God, what in the world are you up to? In fact, I'm going to quit this job and get me one where I can enjoy being around some Christians. And it may be that the day you quit your job, you stepped out of God's will. because you see, all frustration cannot be relegated to the devil. He may be the channel through which it comes, but God allows certain frustrations in our life for our own spiritual maturing or to accomplish something that God wants to accomplish that is totally beyond our understanding, thinking, or comprehension. So the question is, how do we learn to live without frustrations? Here is Paul writing to the Philippians, and he's in prison. He may be even chained to a Roman soldier or isolated in a room there with a Roman guard in his presence. And imagine how frustrated he could be.

4:08 Imagine what you would be thinking. Now, Lord, you call me to be a missionary. And, Lord, you know that I've been to Antioch. I've been to Lystra. You know, I was left, they stole me in Lystra. They put me in jail in Philippi, and I thought that was the end of my jail experience. And he could just go down the line of Thessalonica, of Corinth, of Ephesus, all these churches where he had established, all these places he'd been, and now God's got him in jail. He's in prison. He can't go back to see what's happening in these churches. The only thing he hears is the problems that they're having. And so here he is frustrated. Most of us would be wringing our hands pulling our hair and biting our fingernails off Trying to figure out how in the world we're going to get God's work done sitting in prison Lord Why did you put me in prison? You know what I've done. Why do you have me in this circumstance? Now you may not be in a prison But you may feel that you are imprisoned in your present circumstances and very frustrated that you cannot change what it is in your life that is frustrating you and keeping you from accomplishing what you really choose to accomplish in life.

5:21 So what do you do? Do you rebel against God? Fight against God? Try to find somebody else to accuse of the problem? Or what do you do? How do you learn to live with frustration? For some people, that frustration is a physical problem. With some, it's their business or their finances, their relationships within their family, whether it's immediate family or distant family. But all kinds of things can come into our life to frustrate us. Maybe it's something that you've been trying to achieve personally. And somehow, every time you get right up to grasp it, it eludes you and you feel hindered. And there's nothing any more frustrating than being able to come so close to accomplishing something. And each time it eludes you and you can and you're frustrated, you want to give up and you know you can't give up. And so there you are. How do we learn to live with those things that God will not change? Or he is going to wait long enough until we have to learn to live with them until God chooses to change them.

6:25 So I want to say to you, all the praying in the world is not going to move anything that God has allowed in your life for an ultimate purpose for your good and my good. So how do we learn to live with Him? So I want to give you three things here to think about, if you will. First of all, when you look at the life of Paul here, the first thing you have to do to learn to live with frustration is to learn to rejoice in it regardless of how painful it is. Now, I want you to notice something in this book. This is the one epistle that Paul wrote that there is not a single word of criticism in it. In the book of Galatians, he starts out, for example, if you'll recall, in a tense manner because he wants to deal with a problem among the Galatians. So he's attacking the Judaizers. In the Corinthian church, it's the same thing. He begins that book knowing that he must deal with problem after problem after problem in that fellowship. In the book of Philippians, it's all joy.

7:23 Four times he mentions being in bonds, imprisonment. 16 times he talks about joy, rejoicing, gladness in the Lord, and here he is in prison. Now, I've been to Rome, and I've seen at least something like, or they say this is where Paul was in prison, and it may be. Here he was in prison. In his presence, they just changed the guard every so many hours. And here he is writing the Philippian church, and the theme of his letter is rejoicing in the Lord. So I want you to notice several things he says here, if you will. Let's just look at some of these verses here, beginning in chapter 1. He says, What then? Only that in every way, whether in pretense or in truth, Christ is proclaimed, and in this I rejoice, yes, and I will rejoice. Here he is in prison rejoicing about it. In chapter 2 and verse 17, look at this. He says, But even if I'm being poured out, you see, here's where Paul was.

8:20 He was waiting for trial before Nero and knew that he could be executed or he could be freed and the chances were 50-50. Probably leaning a little bit more toward execution. But even if I am being poured out as a drink offering upon the sacrifice and service of your faith, I rejoice and share my joy with you. Imprisoned, facing death and talking about sharing his joy with them and urging them to rejoice also with him. And then if you'll notice in, let's see, chapter 4 and verse 4, he says, Rejoice in the Lord always. And again, he says rejoice. Verse 10, But I rejoiced in the Lord greatly that now at last you've revived your concern for me. Here's a man in prison who has all the reason in the world to be frustrated, to be anxious, to be upset. But listen to what he says.

9:19 Here's his reasoning for not being frustrated. Here's his reasoning. He has all human reasoning in the world. But here's his reasoning for not being frustrated. Listen to what he says. He focuses his attention. Now watch this because this is one of the keys. In order to learn to live with frustration, I must learn to rejoice even in the painfulness of it. The pain may be physical. It may be emotional or it may be the pain of knowing I cannot do what I want to do or feel like I need to do. Paul says you must first learn to rejoice in it. And he learned that by learning a very simple secret. And that is to major on the things that are positive and good even amidst the things that are painful. So notice what he says in chapter 4 verse 8. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things. Not on the thing that is the barrier to your accomplishment.

10:34 Not on the thing that is hindering you from becoming or doing what you want to do. He says, focus and fasten, let your mind settle on the things that are good. Now, listen to Paul as he sort of talks about the things that are good here. In chapter 1, verse 18, listen to what he says. And all through here, this is what he's doing. Here he is in prison, he says, What then? Only that in every way, whether in pretense or in truth, Christ is proclaimed and in this I rejoice yes and I will rejoice He said for example there were some men there who were happy that Paul was in prison They were glad that this man was in prison Even though they were preaching the gospel He said some of them are preaching out of strife and out of envy He says that doesn't bother me If Christ is being proclaimed and people are being saved I'm going to rejoice even if their attitude and their motivation is wrong Look if you will likewise in verse 21 of this chapter Paul says knowing that he could lose his life He says now for me to live is Christ to live And for me to die he says is only my gain He says in fact the only problem I have here is The problem of desiring to stay and preach the gospel to you Or he says it would be much better for me if God would go ahead, let Nero execute me, decapitate me, and take me on to glory.

12:05 All through this book, Paul is majoring on the good things, the good things and not his circumstances. Look, if you will, in verse, chapter 4, verse 11. Let me show you a word here that I want you to underline in your Bible. He says, look in verse 10. But I rejoice in the Lord greatly that now at last you've revived your concern for me. Indeed, you were concerned before, but you lacked opportunity. Not that I speak from want. He says, now, I'm not telling you this because I want anything, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am in. Now, if he were lying on the beach somewhere, all stretched out in the sun saying, tell the folks at Philippi, I have learned that whatever state I'm in to be content. we wouldn't listen to that.

12:58 But here's a man who is in prison knowing that any moment, Karen before Nero, and he could be executed in a matter of hours. He could get all upset about, then what's going to happen to all the churches? Then what's going to happen to all these Christians? Then what's going to happen to all these people I've shared my faith with? What's going to happen to the whole movement of Christianity if I lose my life? He's not fretting about that. Paul says, I have learned that whatever state I find myself in, I am able now. He hadn't always been that way. He says, now I am able to be able to live independent of the circumstances around me. That is, my relationship to Jesus Christ, my focus upon the positive things that he has provided, and my relationship to him makes it possible for me to have contentment. Doesn't mean that he liked his circumstances.

13:52 is it didn't mean that he liked where it is, and he certainly didn't enjoy being in prison. You see, Paul was just as human as you and I. He had been God's instrument of starting the whole mission movement. Here he is in prison. He has lots of reasons to be frustrated, but he says, I've learned not to pull my hair and bite my fingernails, not to walk up and down. how many Roman guards would he have won to Christ had he spent his time walking round and round and round and round in the prison complaining about God forgetting him. But imagine what those guards must have felt, each one either chained to him or at least in the same room with him. And here he is dictating, no doubt, this letter. And is this Roman guard standing at attention? And this crazy fellow is talking about rejoicing.

14:48 rejoicing being glad Roman soldiers knew the penalty they knew that he could lose his head they knew he could be crucified they knew all about atrocities they were trained in committing them and here he was talking about that he was content being in prison and isn't it interesting what you and I complain about. We complain about getting a little cold or it being too warm or not having exactly what we wanted for lunch or for dinner. We complain about the most ridiculous, uneventful, unimportant things in life which says we let things frustrate us and I'm not telling you I'm an example of not being frustrated. I can name the things that frustrate me.

15:41 I'm preaching this to myself as well as to you. I want you to understand that. But isn't it amazing what we let frustrate us? Paul says, I've learned something. He says, I've learned in whatever state I'm in to be content. I remember something that Bertha Smith, first time I ever met her, she was three steps ahead of me. She was about 83 then. And I said to her, I said, Bertha, how do you walk so fast? How do you keep going all over the country? you're going, 40 years, 30 years a missionary in China, 10 years in Formosa. She says, I don't go in my own strength. I go in the strength of the Lord. Said it about that fast.

16:20 I never saw her get upset. I never saw her get frustrated. And I said, how is it that you just keep putting up? And I saw in situations that would have certainly frustrated me. I said, how do you keep putting up with some of these things? I just hand that to him. I'm not frustrated. I don't allow myself to get frustrated. and I would just admire her and think, Lord, I want to be able to look at life the way she does. Now, I'm learning some things, but there's some things I have yet to learn about being frustrated.

16:50 But as I kept reading this passage and thinking about what Paul said when he said, I'm content. I couldn't wait to look up the real meaning of that word. Not from Webster, but from the context in which it was written. Being able to mentally and emotionally and spiritually live independent of the things would naturally, normally, and humanly frustrate, confuse, or I would consider to hinder me. Now, I want you to see something. Now, watch this as we go through here because I want you to see what he learned that made him be able to say, I'm content. All right? So, he says in this 21st verse, he says, for me to live is Christ to live. For me to die is for my gain.

17:45 And then if you'll notice in the second chapter and the eighth verse, which is one of the most important passages in the whole Bible on the life of Christ in this second chapter. He says, and I believe Paul would have said it this way. I believe he said, here's what I'm learning. And that is in verse 5 Have this mind in yourselves Which was also in Christ Jesus Who although he existed in the form of God Did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped But emptied of himself Taken the form of a bondservant And being made in the likeness of men And being found in appearance as a man He humbled himself by becoming Obedient to the point of death Even the death of the cross Now here's what he was saying Paul said, I'm learning how to be a servant. In whatever circumstance I find myself even obedient in servitude, even if I know it means my death.

18:49 You see, Paul had made a commitment in his life. Listen, the commitment he made had something to do with being able to live in a small circle, totally surrounded by frustrating circumstances, but unmoved and unruffled by those circumstances. Because, you see, his focus was upon the positive. His focus was upon God. And his focus was not upon his circumstances.