Resting Grace

2:41 What we're doing tonight, I'm not sure why you're here, actually. There's two possible reasons. I'll tell you why I'm here. One is a lot of you are new to this country and you've never heard of football. The other possibility is that you're from Pennsylvania. And since none of your teams got in, you're boycotting. And that's why I'm here. I'm from Pennsylvania. So it's a stupid game, stupid game. The series we're in, the series we're talking about, we're talking about the fact that there's a difference between a supernaturally changed heart and a morally restrained heart. And the marks of a supernaturally changed heart are sometimes called the fruit of the spirit. They're listed in a number of places in the New Testament. And tonight we come to the trait or the quality of a supernaturally changed heart, peace. in almost all the lists of these traits, it's joy or peace.

3:37 Now, what I want to do is I want to look at for a minute what this supernatural peace is that's available to us, and then secondly, how we can cultivate it. And I want to spend more of my time tonight than I have the last couple of weeks on how to cultivate the trait because the three disciplines of cultivation here don't just work for peace. They really work for all of the character qualities we're looking at. what is peace and how to cultivate it. It's okay, first. Verse 15, which Michelle didn't read and wasn't printed in the bulletin because I just didn't give the office the proper notice, is let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts. It comes at the very end of all this sweeping chapter on how to change, on a changed heart. And there's a parallel to it in Philippians 4. And in Philippians 4, Paul says, the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

4:35 For I have learned the secret of being content, whatever the circumstances, whether well-fed or hungry, whether in plenty or in want. Now, what's the principle here? Let me use one more illustration from Pride and Prejudice. My illustrations tend to come in clusters, if you notice. And there's a place near the end of the book where the central character, Lizzie Bennett, one of her sisters is engaged to be married. I wish you could find a man and be as happy as me. Well, now, Lizzie's response is interesting because on the one hand, it's not the traditional response. It's not, she doesn't say, oh, yes, you're right, I'll never be happy unless I find a man. She doesn't give the traditional culture response. On the other hand, she doesn't give a modern response that says, how dare you say such a thing? I shall be free to choose the circumstances of my life as I see fit.

5:30 doesn't give either the traditional response or the modern response. Instead, she says this. She says, if you were to give me 40 such men, I could never be so happy as you. Till I have your disposition, your goodness, I will never have your happiness. And what Lizzie Bennett is saying is that happiness is not a matter of circumstances. It doesn't matter, as he said, 40 such men. It's not a matter of circumstances. it's a matter of the disposition of the heart. It's really a very profound idea. It goes completely against, completely against our instincts. When we're unhappy, when our peace is disrupted, when we experience a lack of peace, it's usually because it's triggered by some change in circumstances. Something happens. Something to disrupt our lives. And we lose our peace.

6:23 And we look at the circumstance and we say, that's the cause of it. that's the cause of the lack of the loss of peace. Well, what Lizzie Bennet's saying is, no, circumstances may be the occasion for the loss of peace, but it's not the cause. The cause is something wrong in your heart, a disposition of your heart, and the circumstances brought it out, but your loss of peace is in you. It's not caused by what happened out there. It's in you, and that is what Paul says, Philippians 4, and even here in chapter 3, verse 15, when he says, let the peace of God guard your heart. Let the peace of Christ rule your heart. Now, what do you learn from those statements parallel? There's three things here about this peace, this supernatural peace. The first thing, if you notice, is that peace is not a general condition, this peace, but it is a living power that comes into your life.

7:23 If you look at the verbs, then comes out in the English translation. When it says, let the peace of God guard your heart, it literally means march around the ramparts of your heart, like a guard, warding off any attacks. And in chapter three, verse 15 of Colossians, when it says, let the peace of Christ rule your hearts, it's literally a word for umpire, by the way, for umpire. In the ancient days, they had umpires for the games. You know, they're great games, but I want you to know that those games could get even more rowdy than today's games and the umpire ruled with an iron fist to keep peace in the games, throwing out the troublemakers, throwing out those who disobeyed. And so look at this, look at this. This peace that the Bible talks about, the peace of God, the peace of Christ, is not a vague inner condition. It's a power that comes into your life and acts.

8:19 It's active. you know it rules it it it dominates it it you know it guards you so the first thing we see is that it's this piece is a a living thing the second thing and this may be the most important that the peace of christ rules it is not ruled by circumstances it rules it rules from within another place where jesus says peace i give you my peace i give you not as the world gives you kind of peace, but it's always going away because of circumstances. I mean, if you've ever, I certainly have, if you ever felt like I'm really at peace right now and the very next moment it's gone, that's peace as the world gives. And here's why. Think of a mirror for a second. The mirror has no power of illumination of its own. If there's light outside, the mirror is illuminating. But if it's dark outside, the mirror is dark. If it's light, the mirror is light. If it's dark outside the mirror is dark. It has no power within it of illumination. And the natural heart can only reflect its circumstances. If there's peaceful circumstances out there, you have peace in the heart, but you don't have your own peace. It's a peace that the world gives you and take it away so fast. But we're talking here about let the peace of Christ rule. It's not ruled by circumstances. It rules despite circumstances. It rules from inside. It rules self. It's your peace, believe it or not. It's your peace. It's not a peace the world gives you and then can take away. It's in you. It rules. It dominates. It wards off. It works in spite of the circumstances. And lastly, it's the peace of Christ. It's not a peace that you develop yourself. It's a peace that comes from union with him. Have you got that peace? Do you really have that peace? When you're younger, when you're under 40, usually, when you're younger, you

10:23 placate your heart for a long time by saying, things will get better. I'll get the job I want. I'll get the relationships I want. I'll get the things I want. I'll get the circumstances I want. But as time goes on, you'll come to see that you can't control your circumstances. And it takes time to learn how completely dependent your heart is for its peace on the circumstances of the world, which you have so little control over. You're just completely dependent. You have no piece of your own unless you have this supernatural piece. Do you have it?

10:52 Now, how do you get it? Okay. I mean, I'm not too worried anybody out there saying, oh yeah. Okay. You can leave now. You're going to, you can make maybe the second quarter or third quarter. I don't know when it starts, but anyway. But if, just in case you don't have this piece that's Circumstances, let's go on and ask the question, how do you cultivate it?

11:16 And the cultivation of it has, there's three strategies or three disciplines that are here in the text, and they are so important, and really they're so practical. And they're so basic. The three strategies, which I'll give you, I'll give these names to them so that we can keep them in our minds as we're going along. It's thinking out, digging down, and looking up. Thinking out, digging down, looking up. The first one is thinking out. And it starts right here in verse one. It says, since then, set your, since then, logic. If this is true, think out what that means for your life and live that way. See?

12:08 If this is true, think out what the implications of that are and live that way. And that's how Paul's reasoning. Now, let me immediately show you how completely different that is than the secular approach to peace, stress, anxiety. I mean, our bookstores are filled with books. The magazines are filled with articles. The radio shows, TV shows, the internet are filled with secular approaches to coping with stress, coping with pressure, dealing with anxiety, and finding peace. And what's so interesting about them all is unlike this approach, they don't start with thinking, they start with doing. They go right to technique. Now, here's what I mean by that. They don't start with the worldview. They don't start with the big questions. They don't start thinking. They don't say, they don't start, the article you're gonna read in, you know, Good Housekeeping or something like that,

13:04 on how to deal with stress, how to cope with pressure. It's not going to start by saying, well, let's start by thinking. What is the meaning of life? Where are we coming from? Where are we going? What's really important? What is our reason for life? What is life all about? They're not going to start there. They're going to start thinking. They're going to go right to technique. They're going to say, well, let me talk to you about getting your life in balance, getting a balance between work and rest and recreation. Let's talk about relaxation. techniques. Let's talk about meditation techniques. Let's talk about controlling guilty thoughts, controlling. In other words, they get right down to technique. They don't start with thinking, they start with doing. Why? Well, here's one possibility. I'm going to use this, this gentleman's quote next week too, in a different, for a different way and a different reason. But Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr., I've been reading some of his works and he was of course a very, very famous, he was a Supreme Court justice. I guess he was the chief justice.

14:06 He was a leading thinker in 20th century jurisprudence. And he was a classically modern 20th century secular man. But he thought out the implications of what that meant. And here's, let me just read you a couple of his statements. And I'm going to read them slowly because when you first hear, you may double take and say, he said, what? But here, this is Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr. He says, there is no reason for attributing to a man a significance different in kind from that which belongs to a baboon or to a grain of sand.

14:45 The world has produced me and the rattlesnake, but I will kill it if I get the chance. And the only reason is because it is incongruous to the world I want, the world we are all trying to make to our own power. Now, why does he say such bleak things? He's a secular person. As far as he says, look, as far as I know, this world wasn't created. This world is an accident, and human life is an accident. We're the accidental collocation of molecules. And then what does he do? He's thinking out the implications. He's saying, well, now, if that's true, and if nothing has any purpose, and everything is an accident, and there's no design, two things. there is no reason. Remember, he used the word reason. There is no empirical, rational reason. There is no reasonable basis to say that a human being is more valuable than a rock.

15:38 No empirical reason. And secondly, there's no right and wrong, just power. Nobody's to say what is right and wrong. Right and wrong means there's a design, there's a reason for things, and you have to conform to it. But if everything's an accident, And frankly, right and wrong is all, it's whatever, you, you, you. Who's to say what right and wrong? There is no right and wrong. And therefore, there's nothing but power. And whoever gets their way, gets their way. And there's nothing that can stop you. And there's no moral obligation to live in any particular way. Now, the average New Yorker, who's a secular person, just doesn't go there. And here's what they say. Now, over the years, here's what they say. What they'll say is, look, yeah, I agree that as far as I know, accident. But I know that people are valuable. I just know it. And I know that injustice is wrong. I know there's a right and wrong. Injustice is wrong. Violence is wrong. And people are valuable.

16:37 I just know it. Fine. Okay, that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that way of thinking and believing. I just want you to keep this in mind. You're getting your peace by refusing to think out the implications of your own view. And I want you to see that Christianity works in exactly the opposite direction. What the Bible says, what Paul says is, do you believe that this world was created by a God who wanted our friendship? And even though we've turned away from him, he's moving heaven and earth at infinite cost to himself. He's come down in the form of his son to get us back. If you believe that, if you understand that, Think. How valuable is every human life? How significant is your life? Think. If you don't have peace, if you don't have a certain amount of joy, it's because you're not thinking out the implications of your belief.

17:28 Here's the difference. A secular person says, I'm not going to think out the implications of my belief and that's how I will get peace. I'm not going to think. I'm going to do technique. I'm not going to think. But here's what Christianity has. stupid piece, a smart piece. Not a piece that comes from refusing to think. Not a piece that comes from escapism. Not ho, ho, ho to the bottle I go to heal my heart and drown my woe. Okay?

18:01 Rains may fall and wind may blow and many miles be still to go, but under a tall tree I will lie and watch the clouds go sailing by. That's approach to peace. I'm going to stop thinking. I'm going to refuse to think about what I know. I'm going to escape. And there's a way to peace, but let's face it, it's stupid peace. It's a peace by getting stupid. And the Bible says the Christian approach to peace is a peace by getting smarter, by thinking. Think it out. Is history a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing? Or is history all about the love of God for you? That makes a difference in the way you see things. Think. So, the first point is two things. Number one, there is no intellectual end run. You cannot, if you want the peace that passes understanding, if you want the peace that transcends, that guards your heart, that rules your heart, You can't take any intellectual shortcuts.

19:01 You can't say, well, I'm coming to church because I want a sense of peace, but I don't want to have to think about, is the Bible true? Does Jesus Christ really live and die? Do those things really happen? Was he resurrected from the dead? I don't want to do all that. There's no shortcut. You don't get peace by making yourself stupid in Christianity. You get your peace by thinking things out. Some of you may be saying, that's weird. I never thought of Christianity as giving you peace by thinking more. I always thought of Christianity as close your eyes and just believe. No, sorry. I'm happy to disabuse you of the notion. But there's absolutely no way to peace without doing the intellectual work, without exploring, without studying, without answering your objections, without working through these things. There's no intellectual shortcuts. However, having said all that, we gotta move on to the next two, and here's why. All by itself, this isn't enough to give peace. I had a no. I'm a thinker, or hadn't you noticed? I think, I reason. And I want you to know that it takes you a certain, it takes you to some degree, that is not based on circumstances, is accrued, is procured by learning to think out the implications of these great statements in the scripture and think out the implications of these truths.

20:12 But it's not enough. The intellect is not enough to get you here. Some of you know that. Some of you say, I believe all this and I'm still having trouble with peace right now. I'm still experiencing peacelessness. So let's move on. First, think out. The second basic strategy and discipline is dig down. Verse five, put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature, sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires, and greed, which is idolatry. Now, we have to make a discernment here. First of all, it starts, kill off, kill off. Where it says put to death, it literally means kill off what? Well, there's a long list. and verse five is not all the list there is. I mean, you've got sexual obsession and impurity. Then you've got materialism and greed.

21:05 But if you move on down to verse eight, you've got anger and rage and malice and slander. You've got lying, dishonesty, lack of integrity. And if you go all the way down to verse 11, it looks like there was also other problems there. There's hints that there was class and race strife within the church and it says, there is no Greek or Jew, no circumcised or uncircumcised, no barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, and so on. But what is the cause of all these things? What is at the bottom of all of these problems? And right in the middle of verse five, there are two words that are critical and key, but easy to miss as the key to everything. Those two words. The first term is evil desires. Now the word desires, if you've been coming to Redeemer over the years, you've heard this before, but I hope I can just make it a little more clear, a little more specific than in the past. here is a Greek word epithymia. And it's a hard word to translate because we don't really have an English word that's a synonym. As you can tell by even the way I put it, it means an epidesire, a mega desire, an inordinate desire, an overdesire, an incredible desire. And the reason why, and when you, pardon me, I should say, when you translate it just as evil desires, you give the wrong impression. When you read that, what do you think it means? What do you think it means, and it's natural for you to conclude this, what you think it means is desire for something evil, right? That's not what it means. It is not talking about an ordinary desire for something evil. It's talking about an over-desire for something good that leads to evil.

22:53 This is one of the great keys, and because of the translation problem, it's one of the things that is most missed by people as you read the New Testament. Every single place, every place, that character change and supernatural heart change is mentioned, this word is there in the midst to explain in a catch-all summary way what is wrong with our hearts.

24:18 John uses it in John chapter 2. James uses it in James chapter 1. Paul uses it in Ephesians 4 and here. And in Galatians 5 where it talks about the fruit of the Spirit. Peter uses it. Everybody uses it. The problem with our heart is not ordinary desire for bad things. It's over-desire for good things. And it comes from the second term, idolatry. And I know that grammatically, the way it looks in verse eight, verse five, is that idolatry is only referring to greed. It looks like it's saying greed, which is idolatry. But if you match this with Ephesians 5.5, where almost the same statement is made, it's very clear that Paul's talking, when he talks about idolatry, he's talking about all the things, all the sins, all the issues. And here's what we come down to. In summary, it is saying, kill off the over-desires in your heart which are caused by idolatry.

25:15 That's the direction. And what we're getting here, boy, when you put these two terms together, Paul is showing you how sin works in the heart psychodynamically. How sin works in the heart psychodynamically. I mean, that's a big way to put it. Let me put it like this. Exodus 20, first commandment. Probably everybody in this room has heard of it. The first commandment is,

25:45 So the commandment envisions two prospects, two ways. Either worship the uncreated God, the true God, or you worship some other finite thing as a God. But notice the one option that is impossible is to have no God. See, it doesn't say, I am the Lord thy God. Don't worship other gods or worship no God. It doesn't lay out that one. You either are going to worship God or you're going to worship something as God. But the one possibility, one impossible possibility, the one thing that's impossible for a human heart is not to worship anything and not to have any God. Lots of people say, I'm not religious. I don't worship. And that may be true in the formal sense, but basically there is no such person. And this is saying, therefore, that everybody, everybody, and some of you have heard this often, but I'm going to try to show you how it fits in here tonight in this idea of peace.

26:43 every single person lives for something. Every single person has something that is your basis for your joy, your basis for your meaning. It's your ultimate value. You have to. Everybody's living for something. And that, therefore, spiritually, is your life. There's something that you've made your life. Now, how do you find out what these idols are? How do you find out what these idols are? that are throwing epithumia out all through your life? Well, let me give you two tests. The first test is, and this is the scariest one of all, and I don't, you know, but I'm going to use it. I won't shrink from it because it's, to me, the quickest. You have to ask yourself the question, what is there in my life, whether, what pursuit, what relationship, what condition? I mean, you know, what thing in my life, if I lost it, would make me not want to live?

27:40 probably make me not want to live. Now, caveat, it's possible, very possible, to be suicidal without idolatry. I'm not saying that anyone who's suicidal is into idols because there's physiological and chemical reasons for depression that can send you there. But having said that, let's go back to the test and let me show you how it works. What thing, that if you lost it, suit, what relationship, if you lost it, you would say, I wouldn't even want to live. You know what that means? If there's anything you can say that about, and everybody's got something, if you're honest, that's your life. That's your life. If to lose it means you don't feel like you've got a life, that's your life. You have put into its hands, you have put into its hands the power of life and death over you. It's your real master. It's your real savior. It's your real Lord. It's It's your real worship.

28:41 Now you begin to understand what I said back in the beginning, what the Lizzie Bennett thing was alluding to. Something out there happens, and it puts into jeopardy, it puts into jeopardy something that you've made a good thing that you've made into an ultimate thing. And your peace is gone. Why? Is it the circumstance? No. It's the disposition of your heart toward that thing. The circumstance is the occasion for your loss of peace, but you have caused it. See, here's the other test. The one test is if you were to lose it, what is it if you were to lose it make you not even want to live? That's your life. But the other way to find out what these idols are is to basically find the epi, the epi emotions, the uncontrollable emotions, the overwhelming emotion, negative emotions,

29:36 and trace them back Now, what do I mean by that? Well, now listen, careful. I know this about supernatural peace. Supernatural peace does not replace normal human sorrows. It doesn't replace them. Now, what I mean is, if a good thing in your life, somebody blocks it, you get angry at them. Jesus got angry. If a good thing is in your life and something jeopardizes it, Jesus showed concern. And if a good thing is in your life and you lose it, you feel grief. Jesus was always weeping. And you see, he had the peace. So this supernatural peace does not replace normal human emotions. And normal human emotions don't ruin your peace.

30:30 The supernatural peace of Christ buoys you up through those kinds of emotions. It keeps you going. It keeps you balanced. It doesn't remove them. You see. What does remove your peace is not normal anger, normal worry, or normal sorrow, but it's epi-anger. Do you know what I'm saying? It's epi-worry. So for example, if there's a good thing in your life and something blocks it, you get angry. But if it's an ultimate thing, you get bitter and you can't overcome it. It's an epi- desire. It's epi anger. If a good thing is jeopardized, you worry. But if it's an ultimate thing, you're paralyzed. You're utterly paralyzed. You don't know what to do. You're absolutely frozen with fear and anxiety. Do you see? If a good thing is being lost, you're grieved. But if it's an ultimate thing, you're in absolute and complete despair. Now do you understand why this is the key to peace? When you're deeply restless, when you're peaceless because of circumstances and you're inconsolable and it creates all this, the anger or the fear or the despondency and it ruins your peace. You say the circumstances are what's causing it, but it's not true. It's the disposition of your heart and the circumstances are just revealing the disposition of your heart.

32:04 It's the epithemia. See, it's the over-desires caused by idols that is the real cause of your restlessness, of your lack of peace. And this is the only way you're ever going to find out who you really are and ever deal with the lack of peace in your life. You've got to dig down to this level. Do you go down to that level? You'll never understand the emotions that you cannot seem to handle. You'll never understand the things that you've done that you're amazed that you ever did them. You weren't raised that way. Why did you ever do them? You won't be able to understand yourself unless you get down to this level. There's two kinds of people I'm gonna warn. If you think you're not a religious person, you say, I don't have any idols in my life. Don't kid yourself. I'm trying to show you that you've gotta have them. You do have them. You got something you're living for and whatever you're living for controls you. You don't control your own life. On the other hand, the other persons I would like to warn are Christians, long time Christians. You need to say, well, no, I live for Jesus now.

33:05 there are, don't hide behind that kind of pious babble. There are alternate, competing, functioning saviors in your life. You've got to dig down to this level or you will not come to grips with your lack of peace, with the kind of worry, the kind of anger, the kind of despair that is not the normal. It's over the top. It's tearing you up. It's removing your peace. dig down this deep or you're not going to find it. So, think it out. Dig down. But lastly,

33:44 look up. What are we going to do about our idols? This is our last point. What are we going to do about them? See, what are we going to do? What most people seem to think is they're going to deal with them by willpower. Because it's not overly difficult. I would say most of us are kind of blind You know, we tell ourselves, yeah, I know that's important to me, but it's not an idol in my life. And of course, we're always minimizing. We don't want to admit just how important it is. But a lot of us do admit that there are certain things that are controlling us. They're ruling us.

34:19 And we say, yes, I'm too controlled by what my parents thought of me. And I'm too controlled by this. And I'm going to stop it. You're just going to use your willpower. It doesn't work. Famous, famous statement by Thomas Chalmers shows that idols cannot be uprooted, they can only be replaced. They can't be uprooted, they can only be replaced. This is a famous place where, essay by Thomas Chalmers and where he says, we only cease to be the slave of one appetite because another taste has brought it into subordination. A youth may cease to idolize sensual pleasure and partying around, but it's only because the idol of material gain

34:58 In other words, he wants to have a career. He says, but there is not one personal transformation in which the heart is left without an object of beauty and joy. Its desire, the heart's desire for one particular object may be conquered, but its desire to have some object is unconquerable. The only way to dispossess the heart of an old affection is by the expulsive power of a new one. Now, this is maybe kind of in sense, but you've got to understand something. What makes certain things in your life so powerful is that you are worshiping them. You're doting on them. You're seeing them as a beauty. You're joying in them. When you're standing at the subway and you don't have anything else you have to think about, where does your mind go?

35:43 William Temple said, your religion is what you do with your solitude. When you're absolutely alone, you don't have to think of anything else. What do you fantasize about? That's worship. and if you think that by sheer willpower say well I see that this I'm too controlled by people's approval I'm too controlled by my career I'm too controlled by these things I see these things are out of my life I'm just going to stop it you may conquer remember what Chalmers said you may conquer a particular object but your need for an object of absolute beauty and absolute joy is unconquerable you can only expel one affection with another more powerful one affection

36:23 and that is why verse 5 says kill off inordinate desires you know verse 5 says you can kill all these things off you can get rid of these things but notice it says put to death kill off therefore and the therefore is referring to verses 1 to 4 and what it's really saying is you can only destroy the idols from verse 5 and on is if you've already done verses 1 to 4 and verses 1 to 4 is what? You can destroy the idols if, if, and only if you've set your heart and set your mind on things that are above. Not just set your mind, that's verse two. Set your heart, that's verse one. So we're not talking about just thinking. We're talking about rejoicing in something. We're talking about weeping with joy over something. And what is it? Well, what it is is pretty astounding, but it's a doctrine.

37:18 And here's the doctrine. If you read verses one to four, it's not saying just that you're supposed to set your mind on the fact that Jesus is dead and has risen, but that you have died and have been raised. Look at this. Past tense. This is astounding. It says, you died, and your life is hidden with Christ and God. You have been raised with Christ. What in the world does that mean? You know, you would make sense if it said, well, if you believe in Jesus, then when you die, you'll be raised. You will die, you will be raised. That would make sense. And think about that, because isn't that a happy thought? That's a happy thought. But that's not what he's saying. He says, don't get happy because you think that someday you will die and you will rise. I want you to set your mind and heart on the fact that you have died and are raised. And if you do, you will then finally have the power to cast out these drives, these cravings, these demands of your heart that come from idolatry.

38:16 trying to be able to cast out the things that are destroying your peace. What does it mean, though? Well, you know what it means? You have died in Christ. You have been raised with Christ. You are in him. You are hidden in him. You are with him. And this is what it means. It's all spelled out. When it says you have died, what it means is God considers your sins as forgiven as if you had died on the cross to pay for them yourself. He considers your sins absolutely forgiven, totally. And secondly, when it says you've been raised, what it means is raised. Jesus is at the right hand of God, why? Because the right hand is the place of honor and intimacy. And of course, the Father's heart bursts with delight and love when he sees the Son because of all that he has done. And when it says you've been raised with Christ, it just simply means this, that if you believe in him, if you have said, Father, accept me because of Jesus,

39:15 God delights in you as if you had done everything that Jesus has done. God accepts you as if you had done everything that Jesus had done. Every bit as much. If you say, well that's hard to understand. Yeah, of course. You're going to have to set your mind. You're going to have to set your heart. You're going to have to think and think and think. You're going to have to pray. You're going to have to worship. You're going to have to listen to sermons. You're going to have to meditate on hymns. You're going to have to sing this stuff into music. You have to say, if this is true, how should I be? And that and only that will expel the other affections. This is what heals the heart. And you know what? What I love about verse three and four is it actually gives me the most practical possible way of understanding it. It says, set your mind on things above, not on earthly things.

40:10 When Christ who is your life appears, and glory. Let me give you a perfect example of this. It says, if you want to, you say, okay, thanks, this is really nice, but how do I do it? I'm feeling my over desires, right? I'm feeling, you know, my peace is gone. I'm upset. I'm feeling overly angry or overly fearful or overly despondent. What am I supposed to do? First, realize your heart's already set on something that's earthly.

40:38 See? If you want to set your mind and heart on things which are above first, find where it's set on something that's earthly. It's set somewhere. Exodus 20 says it's got to be set someplace. And therefore, when your peace is gone, you have to say, what is it that I have turned into my life that I've made too important? What good thing have I turned into an ultimate thing? Where is it? Look for it, okay?

41:03 And then look at it and say, you are not my life. Christ is my life. and you have to rejoice in him as the very thing that you're looking to this thing to give you. The example that it's hard for me to get better than is this. I remember, you know, I use this example. You've heard this example before if you've been here because it has so many applications. Let me apply it to this situation. Years ago, I was counseling two women. They were both wives and mothers. They both had teenage sons who were going bad, and they had husbands who were being lousy husbands, and that's the fathers, and that's why the kids were going bad. and I'll never forget that I called them both to forgive their husbands as Christ forgave them and what surprised me was that the weaker Christian at least what looked like a weaker Christian seemed to be able to forgive her husband and the stronger Christian or I should say the more active in church Christian couldn't and we were very perplexed by this until we began to realize that even though this first woman loved her son the second woman had made her son her life

42:13 in other words his success his happiness was everything to her she felt only she was living for him you know she her life would be a success if he was a success and if he wasn't a success her life was a failure which meant he was her life everybody's got something and the only way she could she could overcome her problem she had an over desire to hate her husband see she had an

42:41 Epi anger. And the only way she could do it was not to say, I'm gonna try harder, I'm gonna try harder, I'm just gonna forgive, I'm gonna be a good Christian, I'm gonna stop hating my husband. Oh, no. She had to turn to her son, not out loud, in her heart, and she had to say, you are not my life. And we tie this into last week and the week before. She had to look at my son and say, not I'm loving you too much.

43:05 She had to look at him and say, you know what? For years I've been saying, I'm sacrificing for you you and I'm living for you, but it's really all been for me. All this parenting has been about me. I need for you to be successful. I need for you to be happy. It's all about me. Unless I demote you in my life, I'm never going to be the mother you need. The real problem here is you are not my life. I'm looking to get from you what only Jesus Christ can get, give me. And I'm going to worship him at the moment, every time the moment that I hate my husband because I over desire my son's happiness and at that very minute I'm going to say you are not my life. And therefore, look at her son and look at her husband and say, and therefore you have not blocked my access to my life. My life is hidden with Christ.

44:01 I'm already beloved in him. I'm already a good mother. I'm already a good woman. I'm already a good I'm already a delight. And she can't just say that. She has to worship. She has to experience it. She has to praise until it warms her heart. She has to weep over it. She has to be dazzled by it. Right into the teeth of it. And a bit by bit by bit, her peace will come back. That's how it's done. And you know what? Will you please think for a minute how organic this is, how holistic, how different this is than moral education where you go into a class and you say, just and you must be kind and you must be unselfish and here's the reasons why. How much different this is than technique. Every good, every adventure story goes like this. Some ordinary person kind of going along in life and suddenly something comes in and takes them to another time or to another planet or to another dimension or to a far, far away land and they get caught up in some big story. And that big story has heroes and villains and evil forces. And there's always some incredible conflict. And at the last minute, somebody usually sacrifices the life and snatches victory out of the jaws of defeat and everyone is saved. And then they come home. They come back to their present time. They come back to their planet. They come back, they come back. And their character is different. They're never the same. Why? They're braver. They're sweeter.

45:34 They're happier. They're more easily moved. They're more noble. They've become great. Why? Nothing tempts them now because they've seen high beauty. So celebrity and sex and money can't hold a candle to it. Nothing tempts them now. And nothing bores them now. because someone, remember at the end of Saving Private Ryan, somebody sacrificed, somebody gave their life so that they could be saved, and now every second is precious.

46:10 Nothing tempts them now, nothing bores them now, and nothing scares them now, because they've seen greater evil, and they face it down. Nothing scares them, nothing tempts them, nothing bores them. There's a greatness about their life. Why? Because they're living every day in light of that bigger story. They've come from a bigger story into the daily life. And they remember it. Their minds are set on that. And so they move through their life with greatness. And that's the only way for you or anybody to really become people of greatness, to become kind people, forgiving people, peaceful people, joyful people, noble people, courageous people. That's how it's done. It's not done through techniques. It's not done through New Year's resolutions. You have to think that I was part of this incredible heroic story and now I'm back and I'll never be the same again. That's what it means to be a Christian.

47:03 You know why? A Christian is somebody who's come back. For example, every Sunday you go back into the story and you remember what he did and you remember what he faced and you see him again snatching you from death at the cost, the infinite cost to yourself and you're moved by it and you weep. You go back in the story, and then during the rest of the week, you come back and you're great. If you remember it, if you think about it, if you look and you set your mind and heart on it, that's the only way organically and holistically a person's real character can change. All the alternatives I see out there are techniques and moral education.