You Have Nobody to Blame but Yourself

0:00 Brace yourself and buckle up. You are about to hear a life-changing, history-making, world-defining message from the New Birth Podcast. Tell everybody you know, things will never be the same. I'm in courage I'm in courage You want to say that over yourself today I'm in courage Come on, touch yourself, say I'm in courage Speak over yourself, say it I'm in courage It won't always be like this. I seek glory. The turnaround is here today.

0:54 I seek glory. Speak of yourself. Encourage yourself in the Lord.

1:14 All heads are bowed, all eyes are closed. Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight. O Lord, you are my strength. You are my redeemer. Do what you do best. Throw your weight around. Reveal your glory. In Jesus' name, amen. Amen. Bless the Lord. Would you join me in Judges, the Old Testament book of Judges, chapter 16. Judges chapter 16 only one verse verse 19 Judges 16 verse 19 Judges 16 verse 19.

2:20 Won't you have found it? Won't you declare I got it? After putting him to sleep on her lap, she called for someone to shave off the seven braids of his hair, and she began to subdue him, and his strength left him. You may be seated. after putting him to sleep on her lap, she called for someone to shave off the seven braids of his hair. She began to subdue him and his strength left him. I want to preach for a little while today. You have nobody to blame but yourself. Look at the person beside you and tell them, you better hear all of this.

3:16 Amen. You have nobody. You have nobody to blame but yourself. No DNA test is necessary. I have flat feet.

3:37 My dad has flat feet. I'm left-handed. My dad is left-handed. I have thinning hair on the top of my head. My dad just shaved his off. I wear glasses. He needs glasses. is being transferred to me through genes.

4:12 Genes are the batteries of our DNA to show the body what direction to lean in. To that end, it is responsible, irresponsible, for us to ignore that the first book of the Bible is called Genesis.

4:39 It is the book of genes. So it gives us markers for how the rest of the body of the Bible is to be shaped as well as the build of the body of Christ at large. What concerns me is how the first few chapters of the book of genes puts a disingenuous onus of responsibility on a woman for the fall of man. we all know that Eve ate the forbidden fruit but neglect to point out that Adam did as well we turn a blind eye to the fact that Eve is what sacred scripture teaches us Eve was deceived but Adam ate it knowingly.

5:49 This flies in the face of misogynists who boast that males are a superior intellectual species, negating that Eve was tricked, but Adam was tempted. God gave the command to Adam not to partake of the tree before Eve was ever created when God comes into the garden to hold them accountable he belts out it's because of the woman you gave me and never even identifies the serpent this sets in motion an enduring precedent of brothers not thinking they should take responsibility Shifting blame dismantles solutions.

7:00 All of the energy goes into them defending themselves when in actuality, ownership accelerates resolution. an abuser will say, you made me hit you, rather than dealing with the absence of anger management. A pedophile will protest that a child seduced them and they didn't look their age, rather than admit that they are in a chokehold by the spirit of perversion. a procrastinator will always hide behind traffic when the truth is they ran out of emotional gas a long time ago a cheater will claim unfulfillment but never have the courage to admit selfishness you're focused on the wrong thing you gotta own your stuff when king david saw beashiba on the balcony bathing they accused her of trying to entice him without ever throwing a flag on the field that david is supposed to be away at war just like her husband so beashiba wasn't out of place David was.

8:31 all of us all of us who have matriculated through vacation bible school know that samson lost his strength and for time and eternity we have placed all the charges on delilah but i want to revisit the case file So, let's go. here's what I need you to pay attention to. His parents made a commitment at his birth that their child, Samson, was to adhere to three things. Number one, he should never consume wine. Number two, he should have no contact with dead things. Number three, no cutting of hair. Ecclesiastes 4 and 12 says a three-strand cord is not easily broken. And Samson had three covenants over his life to maintain the strength and the power of God. Number one is no wine.

9:47 Number two, touch nothing dead. Number three, do not cut your hair. And ladies and gentlemen, isn't it amazing that we put all of the weight on the third one? Don't cut the hair. That's because that's the only thing that is visible. We like looking strong while we're falling apart. when people see you crumbling, they don't understand it was not from one issue or one incident. There were some things that happened before that that made me crash out. I don't want y'all to think that I just popped off on my own. What you didn't see is what they said, what they did, how they handled me, and now you showing up at the last minute when you don't know I gave them three strikes.

10:47 in Judges 14 in Judges 14 a lion comes out of nowhere a lion comes out of nowhere and attacks Samson don't you know your enemy is like a roaring lion the lion comes out and attacks Samson and Samson destroys the lion with his bare hands. It's amazing. But then I need you in that same chapter, Judges chapter 14, verse number eight says, and sometime later, he went back and ate honey out of the dead carcass. I think I lost you. Maybe you forgot. He wasn't supposed to touch anything dead.

11:42 so in that moment he should have lost his power and his strength right then and there because he was told don't touch nothing dead in the story of the good samaritan when the priest is coming down the road and sees a man who has been robbed and beaten he is unsure whether that man is dead so to not compromise his ordination he does not touch him i need for somebody who was in this room it to understand there's too much oil on your life for you to be touching dead stuff get out of that dead-end relationship. Stop entertaining people that got a dead personality.

12:38 You got to find an exit plan to get away from that dead-end job. And whatever you do, don't sit next to a dead worshiper because while you giving God glory, They sitting there with their arms folded and their legs crossed. I ain't got time to be giving you CPR. I was glad when they said unto me. MC Hammer said you can't touch this.

13:11 Act like you're going to give somebody a high five and take it back. Act like you're going to give them a high five and take it back. Because as of this day forward, don't you touch nothing else dead. Only God can save them. Only God can resurrect them. And don't let the virtue of your life be drained by somebody who got no intention on living. And so the moment in Judges chapter 14, when he touches the dead lion, he should have lost his power right there, should have lost his strength right there. But let me show you about the mercy of God. Even though he touched something he should have never touched, he still had power. and I don't know why you looking at me in that tone of voice.

14:08 It's some stuff you had no business doing. There's some people you should have never gave your phone number to. Ain't no way in the world they should have ever stayed the night in your bed. But in spite of who you touch, I still got power. He gives power to the faint and to those who have no might. He increases their strength. And so in that moment, he should have lost his power, but God let him keep it.

14:46 I know you don't believe it, but I wanted you to look at Judges chapter 14. And in Judges chapter 14, verse number 10, Samson throws a seven-day feast. the word for feast in the Hebrew is Misheth, M-I-S-T-E-H. And Misheth, I need y'all to hear this, translates in the Hebrew to mean a drinking party. I think I lost you. And so the man who is under covenant for strong drink to never pass through his lips is now throwing a turn up. He got a party sponsored by Hennessy. They are passing the cabossier. Y'all ain't saying nothing.

15:39 Now, he's already touched something dead. And now everybody in the club getting tipsy. He knows the call that is on his life, but he's still imbibing heavy drink, which says to us, y'all not going to like it, self-righteous believers, but it says to us that you can be anointed and battle addiction. I just said something right there.

16:18 You can have the Holy Ghost, but every now and again, you need a hit of something. You made a decision to follow Christ, but you still dabble in the Bible. You've been separated like tears and wheat, but on stressful days, you need a little ooh-wee just to take the stress off of you. So now, here it is. see us in the club. The boomers don't even know what I'm talking about right now.

16:51 so he has thrown the party they got on the flyer promoted by samson now don't forget now he has already touched something dead and now he's drinking it up this is his second offense so even after getting drunk y'all ain't gonna believe it he still got strength and I need some people. I know you got on your church Sunday, go to meet and close, but I wonder if there's some folk that ever drank something, ever smoked something, ever sniffed something. Y'all ain't saying nothing. Ever did anything to your body you had no business doing. And to your surprise, the hand of God is still on your life. If you...

17:42 If you still don't know how you got home that night, if you still don't know how God kept you together, if you still don't know how God kept you together, everybody do a shot, shot, shot, shot, shot, shot. Everybody! and God still kept his hand on your life you ought to be thankful under God look at the person beside and say you got no idea what I used to do you got no idea where I used to go you got no I do who I used to hang with but look at me I'm a testimony. I didn't make it on my own. He prayed for me. So this is his second offense.

18:49 Be seated. This is his second offense where God should have took his strength. I thought this was a good place. I thought this was a good place for me to tell you that he already has two felonies. I want you to know it. He had two felonies before he ever met Delilah. I guess, I guess your Sunday school teacher, I guess your vacation Bible school instructor, I guess your home pastor didn't think it was prudent to tell you about Judges chapter 14. How the first woman he went after wasn't saved. The Bible says he went down to Timnah. he was already going to a level that was beneath him he had no business being there y'all ain't saying nothing you got to be careful for folk who are attracted to people beneath them that they think that they can manipulate you and control you and think that they are smarter than you He went down to Timnah.

20:10 The Bible says he went down to Timnah. Here it is, ladies and gentlemen. And then asked his parents to go arrange it. Now what I need you to know is that that angel never spoke to Samson. Spoke to the parents. And the parents went along with it and helped him get somebody who was a heathen. I don't want y'all thrown off just because you dating somebody you found in church. just because they in church don't mean they in God You have got to be a strong traffic guard on who you let your child get involved with.

21:09 Come on, I know it's old school, but you got to tell them you ain't honking your horn outside my house. Come knock on this door and ask for my daughter. then let the little negro come in who is your mama where does she work y'all ain't saying do you know your daddy who is he is he saved have you seen a model of a healthy relationship before And he bypassed all of the saved girls to go get a girl out the street. I'm in the Bible. Y'all don't like this. And the parents knew that they were unequally yoked, but turned a blind eye. Ladies and gentlemen, I guess nobody ever told you about how it is that Samson, before ever meeting Delilah, got married. Nobody ever told you that. And how his first wife slept with one of his groomsmen.

22:15 Oh, it done got heavy now. Nobody ever told you about how after the wedding, how his wife and her dad got murdered. Nobody ever told you that. So he's dealing with betrayal. He's dealing with grief. He's dealing with trauma. And all people are looking at is his strength. Nobody ever talks about and think it's not mentioning, ladies and gentlemen, that he gets weary. He gets weary because he's saved. He's got a promise over his life. And nobody who he has ever dated was on his level. God, y'all ain't saying nothing to me. Do you know how draining it is that you can't get nobody in your life that's your spiritual level? Do you know what it takes out of you that you got to be the only one praying? You got to be the only one in a scene? You got to be the only one that operates in wisdom? You got to be the only one that consults God? You the only one going to church? Do you know how draining that is?

23:26 So Samson got a covenant over his life, has been wounded, been betrayed, got to deal with grief, had to bury his wife, had to bury the father-in-law. And Judges chapter 16, y'all ain't going to like this. He has hit so much rock bottom that Judges 16 says, and now he's dealing with prostitutes. he's the strongest man that has ever lived, but his weakness, y'all ain't gonna like this, his weakness is wanting to be loved. God help me in here it should just be an altar call right now who know rev I don't deal with drugs I don't deal with alcohol my problem is I keep falling for the same clown I keep dealing with stuff that ain't in my weight class all I need to know is am I gonna be loved with all of this anointing I know God loves me but I need somebody else to love me I know God's hand is on me, but I want to feel somebody else's arms around me.

24:37 I know that God walks with me, but I want to walk with somebody else. Is it such a problem that I desire affection and attention with my anointing? I can handle vulnerability if I could just get consistency.

25:01 So Samson's problem is he never dated a strong woman. his issue is he never dated a saved woman y'all ain't saying nothing to me his dilemma is he has never been involved with a committed woman he has always been drawn to the type that needed his strength because they could see his weakness god help me a chain that's getting ready to fall today and now when Delilah arrives, he is not hoodwinked because the Bible says she had to ask him several times and he saw what her motives were. And even after seeing what her motives were, he turned over what was his secret sauce. My late mother told me years ago, God will always give you two exits before the accident.

26:00 You just got to make up in your mind are you going to get off or are you going to stay on that same road? Come on, I need somebody in this room who understands I knew this was a liar. I knew this was a deceiver. I knew this was a scammer. I knew I was being played, but I stayed right there anyway because I felt safe in manipulation. And finally, he tells the secret.

26:40 But here's what I needed you to know. She asked what made you so strong. And here's what y'all done missed the whole time. Is he only names one of them. He doesn't name the other two because he knew he already blew those. God, help me to preach it right. He knew the only thing he was holding on to was the last thing he didn't break. And now he done gave that secret away. I'm almost finished I didn't want to weary your patience but can you imagine you only holding on to one last thing if I can just hold fast to this last thing I think that I can make it if I can just keep my focus on this last thing I think I'll be able to survive if I'm able to withstand every temptation around this last thing I think I'll be able to find buoyancy and this man gave the secret of his strength away.

27:52 And you mean you blaming Delilah? The Lord never told Samson, don't tell it. his problem was he couldn't put himself in check god help me i feel the weight of his glory in this room so so many of you all are binding and loosening and you're pouring oil and wearing a toleet because you are dealing with the enemy outside but never dealing with your demons on the inside. Create in me a clean heart, oh God, and renew a right spirit within me. You know the difference between right and wrong, but you just keep choosing what's wrong. God, it's me. It's me. It's me, oh Lord, standing in the need of prayer. It ain't my mother. It ain't my father. It's me, oh Lord.

28:53 when are you going to stop blaming your baby daddy? When are you going to stop blaming your absent father? When are you going to stop blaming your two-faced friend? When are you going to stop blaming racists who have no imagination and realize some of the stuff that I'm in, I put myself in. But I'm thankful under God he gave me another chance. And I'm here today because he kept me. I'm here today because he looked beyond all of my fault. And he saw me at my knees. I wanted to ask you I don't know you like that I wanted to ask you how are you giving credit to people who are beneath you How are you giving them that much authority over your life, over your destiny, and over your future that somebody that weak could destroy your whole mindset?

30:16 They're not even in your weight class. God, I can't hear nobody in here. It was their privilege to have access to you. they ain't never gonna run into nobody as gifted and as talented and as anointed as you are that's the reason why they keep bringing you up it's the highlight of their whole life is that they had access to you You may be seated in the presence of the Lord. Hallelujah.

30:54 Softly, musicians, I'm almost finished. I need you to be seated right where you are. Delilah cuts off his hair. And I wanted you to see what happens when they cut off Samson's hair. And they bring them into Mercedes-Benz Stadium. for everybody to laugh at him, for everybody to ridicule him and to make mockery of him. I needed you to see what Samson does and all the more what Samson doesn't do. He never blames Delilah.

31:33 He just said, Lord, put my hand on something strong. God, help me. I just need to be able to feel something. I need somebody's hand in your hand. He can't see his future. He's lost his strength. He just asked, put my hand on a pillar. God said, you don't even know what just happened. I let you touch something dependable. I just connected you to somebody who ain't going to flip out on you. I just put you in alignment with somebody who wants to see you go well. Ladies and gentlemen, I wish I had a better sermon today, but all I wanted you to have is Samson's prayer. Samson's prayer is this one, and somebody's getting ready to give it. Watch what Samson prays. Lord, just give me strength again.

32:27 Oof. I feel this glory getting ready to come in here. I just need 1,500 people to just shout out loud, Lord, give me my strength again. Hallelujah. Somebody's hand is in your hand. and everybody talks about his hell growing back. That is not my intention. That's not my aim. That's not my focus because the hell was the last thing. I need to be restored for the things before the last thing that led me to this moment. God, right now in the realm of the Spirit, is now taking you back to the areas that were intended to break you. What shall separate me from the love of God?

33:22 Absolutely nothing. I know you're uncomfortable, but if you'll endure me, would you just squeeze that neighbor's hand? I now push strength into the hand of my neighbor that the stuff that they used to fall for, they're not going to deal with again. I now put strength back into my neighbor that no weapon that is formed against them will be able to prosper. I speak strength over my neighbor that they're not going to lose whatever it is that God had for them from birth. I know the plan that I have for you. I speak strength. Hallelujah... I'm stronger now because I never would have made it. God, I feel this glory getting ready to come into this place.

34:18 Some of you don't even know somebody on your row is finally getting the strength to walk away. Somebody's getting the strength to cut something off. Somebody is getting the strength to finally end it. Somebody is getting the strength to say, I deserve better than this. Somebody is getting the strength! you got to own your stuff you got to deal with what's killing you what's mishandled you Michael Jackson said I'm looking at the man in the mirror if I want to make that change y'all ain't saying nothing you got to adjust who you been blaming and say God fix me Jesus I want to do better I want to change how I live I want to change how I react and I want to change the kind of people I'm drawn to.

35:23 It is for this reason, I know this is an uncanny perspective, it is for this reason that I love Jesus more. I'm trying not to cry, but it's for this reason that I got to honor him more. Why, Pastor, I don't understand what you're saying. is Jesus took the blame. He who knew no sin took on the sins of the whole wide world. The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life. We sin by thought, by word, and by deed, but he didn't kill us in the middle of our sin. Jesus said let me die for them the only thing I want is for them to live for me it's for that reason that I say I don't know why Jesus loves me I don't know why he cares I don't know why he sacrificed his life but I'm so glad that he did I gotta go but I don't know why you standing there like you got a pristine reputation.

36:49 I don't know how you sitting there like you ain't made no mistakes. I don't know how you are sitting there as if God didn't have a reason to kill you. But if you know he didn't have to let me live, he didn't have to let me live, he didn't have to let me live, but I'm grateful. Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Lift up that hand. I love you, Jesus. I worship and adore you. Just want to tell you that I love you. Lord, I love you more than...

37:45 Come on with no music let's take it from the top everybody lift up your voice

38:06 Just one Lord I love you Lord I love you more than anything come on everybody real big I love you Jesus. I worship and adore. Just want to tell you. This is what I tell you Lord. I love you more than anything. Come on give him real praise right there. I love you. I love you Jesus. I worship Him. I worship Him. I worship Him. I just want to tell you today. Lord, I love you. Lord, I love you more than anything. With that hand lifted, I want to infiltrate the air with the sound of repentance.

39:21 I hope you are energized that you don't need an energy drink. What you just heard should have you off and running, chasing your dreams, pursuing your purpose, and answering your call. If this was a blessing, share it with somebody else. Don't be selfish. This is what God gave you so that you can be a blessing to somebody who needs it worse. CamdanPH ее