He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.One who spares the rod hates his son, but one who loves him is careful to discipline him.He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.He that spareth his rod hateth his son; But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
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… First of all, Solomon says discipline should begin early in life. In Proverbs 13, 24, he says, he who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently. And there the word diligently literally means at early dawn. If you love your child, you will discipline him at early dawn. Now that doesn't mean you wake your kid up every morning at 530 for their daily beating. Okay. That's not what he's talking about. The phrase at early dawn means early in life. Don't wait until your child is 13 or 14 to try to discipline them. Effective discipline begins early in life. Secondly, discipline should be tailor-made for the child. It needs to be tailor-made for the child. You know, there's this running debate in Christian circles and educational circles. What's more effective, physical, corporal punishment or verbal reproof? The answer is yes. Both are effective. Both are necessary depending upon the child and depending upon the situation. Yes, the Bible does advocate physical discipline. In Proverbs 23 verses 13 and 14, Solomon said, do not hold back discipline from the child. Although you beat him with the rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with the rod and deliver his soul from Sheol. Now, before you call child protective services on me or Solomon, understand what Solomon is saying and not saying. He is not advocating the abuse of children. …
… Proverbs 13, 24 says, He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly. I'm giving you permission. because some of y'all don't you think it's you you shouldn't whip your kids now there's a there's a right way and there's a wrong way yeah you don't discipline your children in anger Amen. And notice, now this is true. This is Bible study. Since y'all don't come to Bible study, I bring Bible study to you. Here's another verse, Proverbs 23, 13 and 14. Do not withhold correction from a child. For if you beat him with the rod, he will not die. ain't none of the young people clapping right now he will not die he will not die and then verse 14 says you shall beat him with the rod and deliver his soul from hell Yeah, now I got six kids, my wife and I got six kids, six children, and I feel I had to give my wife the credit. …
3. Your children, while they are young, you may restrain from evil, not only by advice, persuasion, and reproof, but also by correction; only remembering, that this means is to be used last, — not till all other have been tried, and found to be ineffectual. And even then you should take the utmost care to avoid the very appearance of passion. Whatever is done should be done with mildness; nay, indeed, with kindness too. Otherwise your own spirit will suffer loss, and the child will reap little advantage. 4. But some will tell you, “All this is lost labour: A child need not be corrected at all. Instruction, persuasion, and advice, will be sufficient for any child without correction; especially if gentle reproof be added, as occasion may require.” I answer, There may be particular instances, wherein this method may be successful. But you must not, in anywise, lay this down as an universal rule; unless you suppose yourself wiser than Solomon, or, to speak more properly wiser than God. For it is God himself, who best knoweth his own creatures, that has told us expressly, “He that spareth the rod, hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” (Prov. 13:24.) And upon this is grounded that plain commandment, directed to all that fear God, “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.” (Prov. 19:18.) 5. May we not endeavour, Secondly, to instruct them? to take care that every person who is under our roof have all such knowledge as is necessary to salvation? to see that our wife, servants, and children be taught all those things which belong to their eternal peace? In order to this you should provide that no only your wife, but your servants also, may enjoy all the public means of instruction. On the Lord’s day in particular, you should so forecast what is necessary to be done at home, that they may have an opportunity of attending all the ordinances of God. Yea, and you should take care that they have some time every day for reading, meditation, and prayer; and you should inquire whether they do actually employ that time in the exercises for which it is allowed. Neither should any day pass without family prayer, seriously and solemnly performed. …